"People think intimacy is about sex. But intimacy is about truth. When you realize you can tell someone your truth, when you can show yourself to them, when you stand in front of them bare and their response is ‘You’re safe with me.’—that’s intimacy.”
-Taylor Jenkins Reid
My heart resonates with this quote. My heart also resonates with anyone who feels pain and yearning when reading this quote.
Perhaps the pain comes from years of not knowing yourself. Maybe that stems back to your childhood or a past relationship when your feelings were manipulated or controlled for the sake of someone else. Maybe that someone else couldn’t handle your feelings; maybe they needed you to build them up; maybe they didn’t even know they were doing that. Either way, you weren’t nurtured like you were supposed to be. Instead, you were left feeling confused about who you are and out of touch with your worth. And now, it’s like this emotional abuse still lives inside of you. You second-guess every feeling you have, repeating the abuse.
And the yearning is what leads you to this page: the yearning to heal, to know your truth, to share that with someone, and to feel safe. You want to stop hiding from yourself and to stop fighting with your partner. You want to heal your past pain and become a fuller version of yourself—the person you were always meant to be. You want to show up as that person in a relationship so that you can have the chance of someone catching you. You want safety and connection.
This is why I became a therapist. I’m passionate about helping individuals and couples heal the pain of their past experiences and peacefully move forward. I approach this by revisiting your past pain with the goal of uncovering what you truly felt and needed at that time. Together, we focus on giving you what you needed then in real time now. It’s incredible and humbling to be a part of the clarity that then emerges—clarity on your feelings and needs, how to state that, how to accept others, and how to love yourself. I help you slow down to bask in this clarity, making it a bookmark that you can forever reference.
At the end of therapy you’ll feel authentic, centered, and connected. You’ll have more energy for fulfillment and intimacy, instead of second-guessing and doubting yourself. You’ll feel eager and curious about yourself, instead of scared and collapsed when faced with the question of identity. You’ll find and experience safe relationships, instead of fighting without resolution.
I can help you:
Stop repressing yourself
Channel your feelings into motivation for change
Be vulnerable with your partner
Really hear your partner
Let go of damaging and restrictive beliefs about yourself and your partner
“It’s hard work. It’s not always fun. But I know it’s so so important.
Thank you for the gentle way you guide us through this hard work—this rebirth of sorts. You’re like an emotional doula.”
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